I Changed My Mind About Monogamy
Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw Changes happen all the time. The nature of life is...
REDEFINING LOVE
My thoughts on non-monogamy,
polyamory, and open marriage
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- Feb 8, 2021
- 5 min
Self Love: The Biggest Lesson From My Open Marriage
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you have.” — Robert Holden When my husband and I decided to open...
- Apr 27, 2020
- 5 min
Separation Anxiety In The Age Of Coronavirus
After a few post-date withdrawals, I developed some tactics for working through the onslaught of difficult feelings.
- Oct 30, 2019
- 4 min
Is Veto Ever The Right Choice?
In her research article, Anne-Laure Le Cunff defines veto as an agreement in polyamorous relationships that gives one person the power to...
- Sep 6, 2019
- 4 min
How I Fell In Love With My Body
Something interesting happened to me recently… I fell in love with my body. When I was growing up I was an awkward, lanky preteen with...
- Aug 1, 2019
- 3 min
What Makes A Relationship Successful?
My dad has a theory that a relationship can only be successful when these four elements are present
- May 21, 2019
- 3 min
What Polyamory Is NOT
Many poly bloggers, myself included, have attempted to explain what polyamory really is. But many people still don't get what it's not.
- Mar 26, 2019
- 4 min
To Date Or Not To Date, That Is The Question: The “No Dating Friends” Rule in Polyamory
The topic of dating friends has come up quite a bit for me recently. In fact, it surfaced multiple times just in the last week in...
- Mar 20, 2019
- 3 min
5 Ways Open Marriage Has Positively Affected Our Children
When my husband and I decided to open up our marriage our kids were about 4 and 6 years old. I was worried about how our lifestyle would...
- Feb 8, 2019
- 3 min
A Night to Remember: #ThunderFromDownUnder With My Partner's Other Partners
Last Tuesday night was officially the funnest night of 2019! I went to see the Thunder From Down Under show with my partner's other...
- Jan 7, 2019
- 3 min
Are there personality traits that are more common among people in polyamorous relationships?
Lately I’ve been crossing paths with quite a few polyamorous people as more and more friends have been coming out as poly and introducing...
- Dec 18, 2018
- 5 min
We have a choice: monogamy is not the only option
...A story about how I stopped following societal norms While growing up, I was constantly reminded of what an ideal relationship should...
- Dec 12, 2018
- 3 min
Is it possible to be polyamorous and have an anxious attachment style?
According to WIkipedia, attachment theory was primarily studied in the context of children and parents in the 1960s and 1970s. In the...
- Nov 25, 2018
- 2 min
Your Partner's Other Partner: Friend or Foe?
There is a great side-benefit to having multiple romantic partners: you might make new friends with your partners' other partners (also...
- Nov 9, 2018
- 4 min
Let's talk about balance in (polyamorous) relationships
When we decided to open our marriage my husband started dating someone almost right away. For a while I had a crush on a guy that I...
- Nov 6, 2018
- 3 min
"Aren't you just a glorified cheater?" and other reactions to polyamory
There were a few moments in the past few months when I have felt judged by people who found out I was polyamorous. It felt strangely...
- Oct 30, 2018
- 3 min
Rules, agreements, and boundaries in polyamorous relationships
There is a lot written about rules and boundaries in polyamory and open relationships. Some authors strongly recommend having...
- Oct 28, 2018
- 3 min
What is polyamory?
According to Wikipedia, polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the consent...
- Oct 25, 2018
- 3 min
Is jealousy a real feeling?
In the past year I made an interesting discovery: jealousy isn't a real feeling. Jealousy is an emotional flag that points to an...
- Oct 23, 2018
- 3 min
Missing the butterflies: or how we opened up our marriage
It was our 8th marriage anniversary. We left the kids with the babysitter and went out for dinner at a nice restaurant on University - a...