In Sickness And In Health
Every morning I do these four actions on my phone: check for any missed messages and calls, play today’s Wordle, look at my calendar to...
REDEFINING LOVE
My thoughts on non-monogamy,
polyamory, and open marriage
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- Nov 3
- 3 min
How I Met My Partner's Wife
“Clara asked if you’d be up to meet with her,” Daniel said one day. Daniel was my partner, and Clara was his wife. Ummm. What? I had a...
- Oct 31
- 4 min
A Practical Guide to Emotional Safety
Emotional safety is about being authentic and sharing thoughts and feelings with another person without any fear. Frequent criticism and...
- Oct 19
- 10 min
How I Got Triggered After A Consensual Touch Workshop
Last weekend my husband and I went to a wellness retreat in the mountains. As part of it, we participated in a consensual touch workshop.
- Oct 12
- 5 min
How to Recognize and Protect Your Boundaries
The more partners one has, the harder it is to mind everybody’s boundaries. — me. Everybody talks about rules in poly relationships. To...
- Aug 11
- 5 min
6 Signs You Are Not Ready for An Open Relationship
Judging by Google search trends, interest in “open relationships” has doubled over the last fifteen years. I, too, had contributed to...
- Aug 24, 2021
- 3 min
Why Polyamory Didn’t Work For Me
I thought I was polyamorous, but it turns I am monogamish. Both are types of open relationships, both have some degree of involvement...
- May 26, 2021
- 3 min
Mission (Im?)possible: Get Divorced, Stay Friends Afterwards
It was a random Tuesday morning when my ex called and asked what my lunch plans were. “Nothing much; we’ll probably just eat some...
- Apr 10, 2021
- 3 min
Finding Freedom In Authenticity
I had quite an interesting conversation with my ten-year-old friend Emilia the other day. She told me how her best friend Leslie upset...
- Mar 17, 2021
- 8 min
I Thought Polyamory Would Fix My Marriage
“Okay. Let’s start dating other people”, my husband said after we finished appetizers. I met my husband, Jay, in front of a nightclub in...
- Mar 9, 2021
- 4 min
Ten Questions To Ask Your Partner Every Three Months
I had an epiphany the other night: we focus on succeeding at our careers a lot more than we focus on succeeding at our relationships....
- Feb 23, 2021
- 3 min
I Changed My Mind About Monogamy
Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw Changes happen all the time. The nature of life is...
- Feb 8, 2021
- 5 min
Self Love: The Biggest Lesson From My Open Marriage
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you have.” — Robert Holden When my husband and I decided to open...
- Jan 22, 2021
- 4 min
How I Told My Mom About My Open Marriage
Last year at my virtual birthday party my mom raised a glass and said “There is absolutely nothing I could wish my daughter on her...
- Nov 18, 2020
- 4 min
My Journey To Polyamory… And Back
There are two main reasons why people in monogamous relationships decide they are polyamorous: Some critical component is missing in...
- Aug 1, 2020
- 3 min
What It Takes For A Non-Monogamous Relationship To Survive
Since my husband and I decided to open our marriage, I’ve been paying extra close attention to the progression of relationships of our...
- Apr 27, 2020
- 5 min
Separation Anxiety In The Age Of Coronavirus
After a few post-date withdrawals, I developed some tactics for working through the onslaught of difficult feelings.
- Feb 29, 2020
- 3 min
Grandma's Wisdom: Date Other People, It's Good For Your Marriage
We were having dinner at my parents house when my husband asked my grandma how she felt about grandpa's thirst for adventure and constant...
- Dec 17, 2019
- 4 min
Why I Have To Hide From The World That I Am Polyamorous
I have to hide this huge most loving part of me from most of the world, because seeing it as it is would make most of the world...